This is from personal experience. I learn it the hard way and I want to share with you. During my first few years in the U.S, I was very lonely and alone. After I discovered tarot online, I wanted to get a good tarot reading in the comfort of my home. I wanted to know how my future would be, when I'd meet the love of my life, when things would get better for me.
I can't tell you how much money I spent. It's an embarrassment, especially for me. I was lucky that I didn't have a lot of expenses but I knew other people weren't as lucky. I went on many websites, settled on the cheapest one I found, Bitwine. From new readers to highly rated readers, I tried many of them. Sometimes I had more than 3 readings a night. It added up! I tried other website too, from the famous hollywoodpsychics to the less known mypsychic. I tried many!
Besides from the money I wasted, truth to be told, I wasted so much other more valuable things that I didn't realize at the time. I was pining for a good answer and I would want to hear a positive answer every night. So I chased that good feeling, that good answer of "yes, you'll meet him soon," and "yes, money will pour in", etc. Money poured out. But I was wasting my time and energy. The problem was within me.
My self-esteem was low. I wished for a better future, a fairy tale but I didn't feel like I was going to get it. I didn't believe that I could have it. So I chased these answers futilely. Now that I learned a thing or two about tarot, I knew I created this madness. I asked vague questions, based on not a situation I was having, but on a wish of how things would going to be. I wasn't actively doing anything in my life except wasting my time and money.
Of course I realized it. I started to discipline myself but many times, I broke my own promise and got back to it. My saving grace came when my professor convinced me to join a honor society in the college. I became so busy and I occupied myself in something else that gave me substantial joy, not fleeting excitement of hearing something I wanted. Eventually, I became more confident and started living. Things got better as I got a job and started dating.
When I got serious about dating, after awhile, I would ask psychics about the relationship and how the guy felt about me. I asked about it often, like every week! This wasn't quite real addiction as I didn't crave it. I was genuinely curious or worried. The good thing was that I didn't date seriously many guys so I didn't waste too much money to ask. I had a strong sense of practicality that when I saw a red flag, I dropped a relationship like a hat.
The great lesson I learned about getting a reading about love relationship when I met my "the one". Usually, with other guys, after first two dates, I would be curious and ask a psychic. With him, I didn't even have the desire or curiosity to ask. If I went to a psychic, I'd ask about something else as I had no concern or worry about the relationship. In that fresh beginning, I experienced a peace of just being and living the experience without worrying about its future because I felt secure and happy. Of course, later on, further down the relationship, things arose and I was concerned about the situation and I seek out advice. But the striking difference in the beginning of the feeling opened my eyes.
In conclusion, here are my hard-learned lessons for you out there so you can avoid making the same mistakes I made and save some money while you're at it:
1) Seek a tarot reading when you're genuinely curious. Remember the more specific question is, the better the reading is. Don't just get reading because you're lonely or bored. Keep an opened mind.
2) Stay with a reader that you feel connected with. Keep an opened mind. Be prepared to hear whatever the answer might be, not just the answer you want to hear.
3) Sometimes, your relationship with a reader is done. The purpose is fulfilled. Few of my readers were very good but then the readings started getting general and not helpful or connected for me anymore, I thanked them and seek out a new reader for me. Not anyone's doing, just some people are destined to be in certain phases in your life.
4) If you're lonely, go join a club in your local area or college. It's more productive than asking many psychics "when will the one come and I'll be happy?".
5) If you worry about the relationship's future from the very get-go and you seek out reader after every single thing happening in your relationship, it's likely not going to last or it's not yet the time for the relationship to start.
So try to self-reflect at least occasionally :). Make time and space for self-reflection.